Do as I Do not Do as I Say

Children are far more intelligent than they are given credit for. For many adults in previous generations, it was a common concept to think of children as vessels to be filled with knowledge; fit to a mould, a system, follow the directives and regurgitate information and do as they were told. Sure this sounds ideal from a teacher and parental perspective, to have children who comply with and do as they are asked. However, this is not fitting in with the need to understand child’s behaviour or to meet their needs.

Let’s take this idea and apply it to the concept of thinking as a child is an individual, each with their own needs. In this day and age, there is really no limit to the way that a child has been able to express himself or herself. I think this also comes with the decrease in the use of authoratative, physical punishment that was phased ou in many places around the world.

Now we are brought to the context of teachers and parents facing the need for new ways of raising, communicating and dealing with children. A much more positive direction towards liberating children from using fear based tactics to rule over them.

Today we are facing the question of children “not having enough discipline“. Well it is not about being able to control them, for we are, in truth, not here to control anyone else except for ourselves and the ways that we respond to the different things in our lives. So for the sake of answering the statement of not having enough discipline, it is true – we are moving away from the model of needing discipline to control children and young people today. What about this defiant kind of attitude and behaviour that is sweeping across classrooms, homes and society? How about social models that fit their needs based on understanding?

Instead, rather than the need to focus on discipline, how about we be the role models who set the examples of what is expected for children? For example, in a society that condemns violence in the home, school and society, how can we set rules for them when we condone such things in video games, films and children’s toys? Or how can there be rules for illicit drugs when there are other things just as addicitive considered the norm? How do we overcome these kinds of behaviours?

We would like you to consider this today, as some food for thought as to what you have the potential to model to yourself and the children around you. Think about the ways that you set an example and you are a teacher by living and leading by these principles that guide your life.

As for my Indigo Brothers and Sisters, we would like to finish by saying – “Make your own living experience an example to live by and to learn and grow from. Let a personalised experience that you apply to your life be what you set your life to and form your own understanding to get the most out of it. You are your own individual self who is here to shine in your own personal and unique way. You are beautiful, blessed and full of potential.”

 

Blessings and love,

Nathan and Friends