Do as I Do not Do as I Say

Children are far more intelligent than they are given credit for. For many adults in previous generations, it was a common concept to think of children as vessels to be filled with knowledge; fit to a mould, a system, follow the directives and regurgitate information and do as they were told. Sure this sounds ideal from a teacher and parental perspective, to have children who comply with and do as they are asked. However, this is not fitting in with the need to understand child’s behaviour or to meet their needs.

Let’s take this idea and apply it to the concept of thinking as a child is an individual, each with their own needs. In this day and age, there is really no limit to the way that a child has been able to express himself or herself. I think this also comes with the decrease in the use of authoratative, physical punishment that was phased ou in many places around the world.

Now we are brought to the context of teachers and parents facing the need for new ways of raising, communicating and dealing with children. A much more positive direction towards liberating children from using fear based tactics to rule over them.

Today we are facing the question of children “not having enough discipline“. Well it is not about being able to control them, for we are, in truth, not here to control anyone else except for ourselves and the ways that we respond to the different things in our lives. So for the sake of answering the statement of not having enough discipline, it is true – we are moving away from the model of needing discipline to control children and young people today. What about this defiant kind of attitude and behaviour that is sweeping across classrooms, homes and society? How about social models that fit their needs based on understanding?

Instead, rather than the need to focus on discipline, how about we be the role models who set the examples of what is expected for children? For example, in a society that condemns violence in the home, school and society, how can we set rules for them when we condone such things in video games, films and children’s toys? Or how can there be rules for illicit drugs when there are other things just as addicitive considered the norm? How do we overcome these kinds of behaviours?

We would like you to consider this today, as some food for thought as to what you have the potential to model to yourself and the children around you. Think about the ways that you set an example and you are a teacher by living and leading by these principles that guide your life.

As for my Indigo Brothers and Sisters, we would like to finish by saying – “Make your own living experience an example to live by and to learn and grow from. Let a personalised experience that you apply to your life be what you set your life to and form your own understanding to get the most out of it. You are your own individual self who is here to shine in your own personal and unique way. You are beautiful, blessed and full of potential.”

 

Blessings and love,

Nathan and Friends

The Power of the Word

Recently, we were asked why terms such as Indigo Children and Crystal Children were used for children exhibiting varied traits in areas such as personality, physicality and physiology, and part of the reason for this is to empower and educate. From my experiences, growing up and now at school with a range of different children, a medical diagnostic label such as ADHD and Autism has implications that something is wrong or that thlabel-34247_640e person is broken.

It is looking for symptoms and problems rather than looking for solutions. Remember that we become what we say we are. So if a child with one of these diagnosed labels finds out that this label is given to them and they are seen as problematic, then that’s what they’ll think is true about them. It may lead them to think that they aren’t worthy of fitting in or that they aren’t ‘normal’ like those without labels.

Wouldn’t it be far more empowering to highlight the strengths of these children through emphasising their gifts and unique ways of exploring the world? Whilst all these children have been coming to the Earth in higher numbers, some medical and scientific communities are looking straight past the differences as things to celebrate and welcome, rather, looking at them as things to fix. We are who we are and we are what we are and there’s nothing wrong or broken about us.

What we are being faced with is not surges of increasing epidemics of things like ADHD, Autism and the like, but rather we are facing awakenings in human evolution. Changing consciousness, communication, emotional understanding, compassion, integrity, unconditional love and remembering love as that is what we are and who we are.

My Indigo Brothers and Sisters, you are perfect just the way you are. We celebrate your presence here. We honour you. We bless you and we say, Namaste.  

Love from Nathan and Friends.